Oct
15
2010

How do you “disarm” a bully? Part 2

kindness

Kill ‘em with kindness (Part 2) By Jeffrey Sidman Each day I arrived at the bike rack and saw Matt, I would simply say “Hi Matt,” and wave with a smile. That’s it. No conversation. No compliments or begging. Just “Hi, Matt.” At first he gave me this look like he wanted nothing more than to tear the smile from my face and force feed it back to me. Then it just turned into a […]

Oct
14
2010

How do you “disarm” a bully?

kindness

Kill ‘em with kindness Please enjoy part one of this two-part story. By Jeffrey Sidman You never know how things will work out. When I was in third grade, I had an experience that taught me the value of being friendly to people who didn’t act friendly in return. I went to a school named Chandler Elementary. I lived close enough that I was allowed to start riding my bike to school that year. I […]

Oct
12
2010

Bullies Intimidate, and Intimidation is FEAR!

stop hate

It seems that we are living in a society that has been so desensitized to violence that when there is a sign that something bad is happening in our surroundings, we either: Don’t Feel like it’s real…we might feel like it’s a TV show/movie being shot, Don’t Act on it because we don’t want to get involved, We do Feel afraid or threatened that it might turn on us, Don’t know what to do, or […]

Oct
11
2010

The Emotional Burden of Bullying

bullying hurts

VICTIMS OF VICTIMS OF VICTIMS It starts with one person trying to control another through intimidation.  That person was probably bullied at home by a parent or bigger sibling.  The one doing the bullying feels somehow inadequate and, by controlling the “weaker” person, feels stronger.  There is a transfer of emotions to the victim, who now feels inadequate and then must go out and bully someone else.  It is a vicious cycle and it is […]